When we describe life to ourselves only in our minds, our imaginations tend to feed false or distorted information about how things are, positive or negative. When we describe a situation in writing, however, we become more factual, more accurate, and certainly more realistic.
Examine your circumstances through the lens of the microscope of truth to see their real nature, their real perimeters and their real composition. as you continue to refine your statement of the problem, of the way it really is, you will begin to move closer to the solution.
As you become better at describing life to yourself, you will find that you become better at describing yourself to life. Put into more practical terms, as you become better at saying what you really want and how you really feel to yourself, you will be able to better express yourself and your feelings to others, and in return, better able to understand what others are really feeling and really saying to you.